Response Comment from Greg Davidson on posted blog: One Theory On The Adoption Option

Russell Little, thanks for Karen Daniel’s thoughtful blog post on adoption. Yes, it is sad that still in 2016 there is a certain shame associated with the process of adoption.

That was not our case with Mary Grace’s adoption.

Our birth mother is one of the heroes in my life. I’m sure Donna feels the same.

She took responsibility for the life she created. She knew it was up to her to care for the baby the best way that she could, despite a total abandonment by the father.

Had I really had a say in the adoption, I would have kept it blind. I would have wanted complete separation and anonymity. I don’t want more problems in my life.

Well, thank goodness God had different plans. He brought a beautiful pregnant young woman into our lives who was struggling to do the right thing. Sure, she could have terminated the pregnancy. That’s what the modern mores would demand. Get rid of it. It was an accident. Get on with your life.

So, instead of shame, we built a relationship. It has been hard. Any relationship is. But we knew that it was more than just about us – two middle aged adults with a pregnant teenager

It was about a baby who bore no shame or even responsibility for being here.

Our birth mother took the high road. She did the best she could for her unborn baby.

So what now? We are a part of her family as she is a part of ours. She has married a wonderful man and they have two wonderful kids.

We see them on a regular basis. They take Mary Grace on their family vacations to San Antonio. We go to their son’s tee ball games and cheer for Mary Grace’s brother. It won’t be long till we will be cheering on her sister for something.

The reality is that once I am dead and gone, this will be my daughter’s family and support group.

Had I had my planned way and it had been a closed adoption, I would have robbed myself (and my daughter) of one of most meaningful relationships in our lives.

So it makes me sad to know that other’s experience something different. I pray that they find meaning and purpose in the situation that God presented to them, for it is those struggles that make us.